Do you regret starting a family so young?
Questioning my pregnancy
While pregnant, I was constantly getting asked if I regretted getting pregnant so young. Weston and I had just got married in June and in August we were pregnant. People basically shamed us and told us we should have at least waited a year. They would insert their unwanted opinions like it was any of their business in the first place. Our beautiful daughter certainly wasn’t planned, but she wasn’t something I ever regretted for even a minute.
It sometimes feels like people see getting pregnant as a burden for young parents! “You need to live your life, go crazy and get it out of your system now, because once you’re pregnant, you’ll never be able to go out again.” In my opinion, people have the wrong mind set! Just because you have a kid doesn’t mean your life is over. It’s simply the beginning of a new life. No one ever said that having children means you can’t go have fun. It’s like when people tell you not to get married young because you’re too tied down. Let me tell you, I’m married with a one year old at 25 and I still have lots of fun! Heck, I’m planning on going to Stagecoach next year. It’s called using a babysitter, people! Letting your kids or your marriage “ruin” your life is a choice. You can choose to lose yourself or you can chose to make time for yourself. Get out of the house and practice a little self-care. Of course your life will look different after having kids, but different doesn’t mean bad.
The hardest part for me was having those friends that stop asking you to hang out. They won’t understand your choices. But you have to ask yourself, do you really want to be friends with people like that anyway? As we all get older, we move in different directions in life. Some of us get married, some travel the world, and some start a new company, while others start a family. There’s no wrong decision, there’s just your own decision. The good news is, you’ll make new friends that are at the same life stage as you. They’ll also treasure nap time and enjoy going to bed at 9pm. Life is full of new beginnings and that’s what makes it beautiful.